Notes on Empathy from Baby Tress Co Founder

I am upset - and I’ve been upset - by the anti-Other sentiment that we’ve seen in this country, and around the world.

For me, being an Other has become a part of my identity. And as I’ve grown older, I’ve embraced that - especially because I found my Otherness to be special, and I found safety in a community of other Others (be it race, creed, color, religion, gender expression, sexuality, disability, even interests, etc.) who have enriched my life with new and unique perspectives that are rooted in our shared Other experience. And while there’s immense pain and suffering that comes with being an Other, it has also given me the opportunity to become a more empathetic person. 

When you’re an Other in America, you are naturally quick to accept, and slow to judge. And it seems like now more than ever, when we all seem to be so against each other, this is the mindset we must adopt in order to move forward as a nation that can authentically claim liberty and justice for all.

In light of yet another egregious act of senseless violence - where innocent lives were taken away so cruelly - my heart humbly asks you to take a moment today to empathize.

Empathize with the friends and families of Delaina Ashley Yaun, Paul Andre Michels, Xiaojie Tan, Daoyou Feng, Soon C. Park, Hyun Jung Kim, Suncha Kim, and Yong A. Yue, who unexpectedly lost a loved one.

Empathize with Asian women, who are hypersexualized and fetishized in the media and by the men in our society.

Empathize with the immigrants who come to America looking for an opportunity to better their lives and the lives of their family - who are willing to take any available job for the sake of survival.


Empathize with your fellow Asian American colleagues, classmates, and friends who have never been fully acknowledged as American even though they were born in this country.

And empathize with all the other Others who have been unfairly suffering because of the cruelty and ugliness of racism.

Sending lots of love to our community, and beyond.




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